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Hello everyone and happy new year !
I have been reading poodle forum posts for several months now and finally signed up for an account!
I am from Toronto, Canada area.
Just have a question to ask: your input is greatly appreciated!
I put down a deposit for standard pup from a local breeder and am just waiting for mom to get pregnant.
The main reason I would like to get a pup is that I think it would help improve my family dynamics. I've done quite a bit of research over the internet and found that having a pet would be good to improve emotional and mental issues. But on the other hand, I am worried that the pet will merely be 'used' as a tool to fix current emotional and mental issues that my family is experiencing.
So just to give you a little bit of my background I am a single person living with my parents and an older brother who's been diagnosed with bipolar disorder years ago. My brother goes through cycles of mania and depression and it has put the rest of the family very stressed out. On top of that i am not from financially-rich middle class and my parents literally can't work due to some health concerns (but they own a house and they've applied for pension which will give them some break). My brother is currently unemplyed (have been unemployed for years due to his bipolar behaviours) and I myself helped a lot with my parents' finances. So my brother's condition and financial difficulties combined causes frequent family fights and arguments. My brother's sometimes aggressive and depressive mood cycles caused a few police calls as well. Currently my mom's against having a dog in the house because she's sorta 'clean freak' (actually many arguments are started by her 'cleanness') and she doesn't like dog making mess or shedding hair (I told mom that poodles don't shed but she doesn't believe). My dad and brother are lukewarm and just says, 'maybe'.
I myself love dogs, had experience raising puppies (during childhood) and can't wait to have my own dog beside me, but problems with family dynamics keeps on bothering me as I don't want the pup to be raised with stress. A friend of mine said my family would not love the pup at first sight but will gradually fall in love and all these emotional and mental issues can improve with having a pet. But this thought of raising the pup in an environment where family stress is high just worries me and bothers me a lot.
So what do you guys think? Should I go ahead and get a pup and things will improve?
Or should I just not go ahead with it?
The deposit is refundable or can be deferred (e.g. I can defer it until I move out).
Thanks so much guys!
I have been reading poodle forum posts for several months now and finally signed up for an account!
I am from Toronto, Canada area.
Just have a question to ask: your input is greatly appreciated!
I put down a deposit for standard pup from a local breeder and am just waiting for mom to get pregnant.
The main reason I would like to get a pup is that I think it would help improve my family dynamics. I've done quite a bit of research over the internet and found that having a pet would be good to improve emotional and mental issues. But on the other hand, I am worried that the pet will merely be 'used' as a tool to fix current emotional and mental issues that my family is experiencing.
So just to give you a little bit of my background I am a single person living with my parents and an older brother who's been diagnosed with bipolar disorder years ago. My brother goes through cycles of mania and depression and it has put the rest of the family very stressed out. On top of that i am not from financially-rich middle class and my parents literally can't work due to some health concerns (but they own a house and they've applied for pension which will give them some break). My brother is currently unemplyed (have been unemployed for years due to his bipolar behaviours) and I myself helped a lot with my parents' finances. So my brother's condition and financial difficulties combined causes frequent family fights and arguments. My brother's sometimes aggressive and depressive mood cycles caused a few police calls as well. Currently my mom's against having a dog in the house because she's sorta 'clean freak' (actually many arguments are started by her 'cleanness') and she doesn't like dog making mess or shedding hair (I told mom that poodles don't shed but she doesn't believe). My dad and brother are lukewarm and just says, 'maybe'.
I myself love dogs, had experience raising puppies (during childhood) and can't wait to have my own dog beside me, but problems with family dynamics keeps on bothering me as I don't want the pup to be raised with stress. A friend of mine said my family would not love the pup at first sight but will gradually fall in love and all these emotional and mental issues can improve with having a pet. But this thought of raising the pup in an environment where family stress is high just worries me and bothers me a lot.
So what do you guys think? Should I go ahead and get a pup and things will improve?
Or should I just not go ahead with it?
The deposit is refundable or can be deferred (e.g. I can defer it until I move out).
Thanks so much guys!