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I'm not posting to upset anyone, I am just looking for some constructive help in dealing with my fiancee's dogs (miniature Poodle & Yorkie or Westie mix; but look mostly like Poodles).
My reasons for wanting to be left alone are:
My goal is to have the dogs give me my space and pretty much leave me and my effects alone prior to our being married and living together.
As it is now they are very demanding of attention, and if I ignore them they will paw at me or jump on me and ignoring them or turning away from them only exacerbates the behavior. Additionally, the younger one will paw at one's legs if it wants to be picked up and licks at people constantly (both exposed skin and clothing). The anxiety comes from the dogs neediness, having to wash where I've been licked before an allergic reaction develops, being followed and bothered incessantly when I'm at my fiancee's house.
I like the dogs okay don't hate them or anything like that and am nice to them, I just want to feel like I have some space and to not have to worry about a pair of expensive trousers or shoes being ruined. My fiancee knows I'm making an effort to adapt to the dogs and that I don't view them as family or children (and never will for that matter). I have been honest with her about some of the issues I have with the dogs but I don't want to hurt her feelings because she DOES think of them as her children and a part of her family. She knows I'm making an effort but I haven't emphasized how much of an effort it is for me, it's just something I feel like I have to deal with and manage and I want to do it the right way and not cause any issues with the dogs. Sorry this post is so long, I somewhat felt the need to go into detail to help keep the flames to a minimum.
My reasons for wanting to be left alone are:
- Allergies - I am allergic to dog dander and saliva
- Clothing - I wear expensive clothes/shoes and do not want them damaged or dirty
- Anxiety - The dogs stress me out
My goal is to have the dogs give me my space and pretty much leave me and my effects alone prior to our being married and living together.
As it is now they are very demanding of attention, and if I ignore them they will paw at me or jump on me and ignoring them or turning away from them only exacerbates the behavior. Additionally, the younger one will paw at one's legs if it wants to be picked up and licks at people constantly (both exposed skin and clothing). The anxiety comes from the dogs neediness, having to wash where I've been licked before an allergic reaction develops, being followed and bothered incessantly when I'm at my fiancee's house.
I like the dogs okay don't hate them or anything like that and am nice to them, I just want to feel like I have some space and to not have to worry about a pair of expensive trousers or shoes being ruined. My fiancee knows I'm making an effort to adapt to the dogs and that I don't view them as family or children (and never will for that matter). I have been honest with her about some of the issues I have with the dogs but I don't want to hurt her feelings because she DOES think of them as her children and a part of her family. She knows I'm making an effort but I haven't emphasized how much of an effort it is for me, it's just something I feel like I have to deal with and manage and I want to do it the right way and not cause any issues with the dogs. Sorry this post is so long, I somewhat felt the need to go into detail to help keep the flames to a minimum.