Sounds like she is doing very well with her toilet training and the little accidents here and there are to be expected. Try and watch for any tell tell signs like my little one used to begin really sniffing and then circle a little and at that point i would take him straight to the garden and he would relieve himself. With the kennel try giving her something like a stuffed kong when you leave her as the may help keep her mind occupied and more likely to forget she has been left. Also put her in it for short periods during the day even when your at home, so she doesnt always associate the kennel with you leaving her for a long period at night. Initally just take her in and out make no fuss either way, then when she starts to calm a little and you cannot hear her cry take her out and make a massive fuss of her! I have not suffered this problem personally but do no someone who did and this helped them a great deal
Also i feel a dog is better not sleeping in the bedroom but this is just a personal opinion as i know many people do this and have no problem with it. I do however hear your problem of taking toys they shouldnt even though they have plenty of their own! All i can say is what we did with my mini which was ignore him, take off what he shouldnt have and walk away they soon get bored. I hope this is of some help and wish you all the best of luck
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