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At the end of my rope...Any ideas?

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About 2 months ago, I adopted my first poodle, Jack a 10 month old mini, from a "rescuer". I knew he had issues (very timid, but not agressive) and took him in with the goal of working with him and giving him a good home. I thought I was making headway with him, because he was following me around, and jumping up on the couch to sit near me, and was letting me pet and groom him a little. Now, he spends most of his day in the crate. He will still jump up on the couch next to me, but if I move at all he jumps down and goes into the other room. About a week ago, he was on the couch next to me and I put his leash on so that I could be able to keep him from jumping down so that I could brush him. I guess he sensed this and jumped down before I could get a good grip. I tried to put him back up on the couch, and he bit me. It wasn't bad and I attributed it to the fact I probably startled him. Then two days ago we wanted to take out of the house for some good exercise(he ONLY appears happy when he out side or knows he is about to go outside). My huband got out of the car to fill up the gas tank and Jack jumped out the door. My husband caught him mid jump to keep him from getting away and he bit my husband. Again I think it's because he was scared but I would have thought that in 2 months he would start to understand that we aren't going to hurt him, and that he would be making some real improvements. I don't know what to do. What if he tries to bite my kids? I know it's not me, and that he just doesn't really like people in general, but everytime he runs away from me I want to cry :((and sometimes do:bawling:). I want so badly to have Jack feel like a part of the family, and I don't know what else to do. I wouldn't be so concerned if he seemed to be getting even a little bit better but he actually seems worse. PLEASE HELP!! I don't know what to do! My husband wants to get rid of him and get me a puppy. I don't want to get of him, but I'm starting to wonder if he can be helped. What do I do if he never gets better? I can't imagine having him around for the next 10+ years and never being able to cuddle or play with him. :love-over: Does anyone have any ideas, encouragement, or advice? Do I keep trying to work with him, or is my husband right :deadhorse:and he's a lost cause? This is killing me, I just want my dog to at least not hate me...

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What do I do if he never gets better? I can't imagine having him around for the next 10+ years and never being able to cuddle or play with him.
One thing you must take into consideration is he may never be a cuddly dog. I agree with Locket 2 months is a very short amount of time for any dog to start to fully trust its new humans.

We rescued a female toy poodle named Poppy on Christmas day and it took her more then 5 months to trust us, she still runs when you reach for her and has issues with med and children. A few weeks ago we placed her in a home and she is very happy but her new owner under stood that she will never be the kind of dog that wants to lick your face and begs for a cuddle.

I have a rescued Rat Terrier/Beagle mix named Betty whom I have had for 4 years and she just now will let my mother touch her but still barks and my sisters and her family. I know she will never be anything more then she is and I don't ask it from her.

So along with the good advice given, I suggest giving him more time and do not force him into anything. And to realize he may never be a Velcro dog. You just have to accept him as he is and work with him very slowly. It may very well come down to needing to re-home him.
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