When i was growing up, if a ball or other toy went into somebody’s yard, you either wrote if off, got yelled at by the neighbor, or snuck in the yard, if there was no fence or dog, to get it. My parents never would have let me go banging relentlessly on somebody’s door.
Our last beighbors’ kids used to come to the door multiple times per day and just knock and knock if a toy went over my frnce and into my yard. At first, I retrieved and returned them but after a while, Icthink the parents should have has the courtesy to tell the kids not to do it anymore. Or, at least, to tell them not to come back more than once.
We have new neighbors and it’s starting all over again. I was in bed with a migraine and the little brats wouldn’t go away! Do parents themselves have any concept of courtesy or decorum today, because they’re definitely not teaching their kids?
When i get a dog, I’m putting up a sign, “anything that comes over the fence becomes property of the dog.”
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why wait till you get the dog? just put up a sign saying anything that comes over the fence will be saved for a future dog.
and yes, nobody is courteous anymore. at eight at night i can hear my neighbors' kid bouncing what must be a basketball in the courtyard. annoying, since my living room faces the courtyard. i put up with it, but if my mother were still alive, i wouldn't. she had serious health issues and didn't need the annoyance.
hope things get better for you.
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My dogs had a huge collection of soccer balls, baseballs, bouncy balls, tennis balls, and a basketball or two from the neighbor kids next to us and behind us. Like many children today, they had no social skills to come to the door to retrieve them.
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I’m not old enough to be a cantankerous old person but I don’t want to be chasing kids toys around all summer. If i had kids, I’d tell them they could knock-a couple of times not a thousand- and nobody answered, come home, and I would mever allow them to bother people on a Saturday or Sunday morning. My ild neighbors not only allowed their dogs to ALWAYS be off leash but they never taught their kids manners either. The thingd those kids used to do! Hopefully, these people won’t be as bad but if they are, it’s not like we’re going to be best friends. I’ll just have to tell them I’m not going to put up with it. I wish I lived ion a few acres, with no annoying neoghbors.
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I wouldn’t want to be that wicked witch neighbor either, especially since I believe kids need to be outside more, throwing and kicking balls, instead of playing computer games. Doesn’t anyone remember being a kid and your only ball sailed over a neighbor fence? It seemed like such bravery to ask for it back. We rang once, but I never had a ball as expensive as some of my son’s soccer balls. I would just put out them in the front yard, as you happen to find them and let the bell ringers know that’s how it works.
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If the knocking upsets you, why not tell them that as long as they are careful they may go and retrieve the ball without knocking? Unless, of course, your garden is extremely secure, in which case place something against the fence to facilitate climbing. Working up the courage to retrieve a ball from the ferocious neighbour's garden is a rite of childhood, but being ferocious takes far more time and energy than just letting them get on with it!
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I have a little different take on it I guess. I moved a year ago into a neighborhood with 99% retired people so I don't have kids except one family down the road who has 8. lol. But anyhow, in my last neighborhood there were kids, two next door who were constantly losing their ball over the fence. I thought they were very polite to come ask me if it would be okay to go in my yard to get their ball rather than just tromp through my flower beds to get it. They were courteous and pleasant, apologetic and just nice kids who by accident made their ball go over the fence. These were very small yards and probably not the best for playing certain ball games. It was indeed annoying when I might be taking a rest to have the doorbell ring or a hear a knock, have the dogs go ape shii like they do when someone comes to the door. But I just felt like it was a necessary evil. lol. It did get a bit exasperating when it was repeated more than once in a day... or if the ball went in the backyard, they'd ask if I could get it. Finally, that really got on my nerves to have to play Labrador retriever for them and I'd tell them next time I'm out there gardening I'd toss it over the fence. And I told them if it goes in the front yard not to knock, but to go ahead and go through the little gate (short picket fence) and get it but to be careful not to step on my flowers. Finally, they bought some acreage and moved away and then I moved away and all is well.
It never occurred to me that they were being rude because they were polite about it. And they were pretty cute kids who had trouble playing without losing their balls. They didn't know. I often heard their parents teaching them good manners and behavior in a nice way...explaining things, not yelling at them. I thought they were pretty good parents. And pretty nice kids and that this was just something that happens. I'm happy though, that my senior neighbors aren't doing anything objectionable at all.
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I approach it differently. The kids next door to me play soccer and other games in their back yard. Since we live on a hill and their yard is higher then mine, balls end up in my yard. I don’t want them going in my dogs fenced in area and I have heard their mother tell them not to go in our yard. I wouldn’t mind their knocking on the door once or twice in a day. They have figured out that if I’m out in the yard I toss any found balls back into their yard so they wait at the fence or last year I placed a bucket between our yards and I would place the found balls (many different sizes) in there for them to retrieve. I love that they play outside. My last neighborhood you never hear the sounds of happy kids playing.
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