It looks to me as if they are shaving too much in between her eyes....I don't go up into the stop much at all. Basically from inner eye corner to inner eye corner, then about 1\2" down the nose, or less. Ask them to use thinning shears rather than a clipper, it will give a more natural less "surprised" look. Tell them you don't want to see skin.
Also, ask for a bit of a visor....it frames the eyes, giving a soft girly look.
If you want her to look nice and feminine, I would let them go ahead and fluff her coat up really good and straight, scissor it all nice and round and cute, then when she gets home you can spritz her coat with water to bring the curl back. They aren't going to be able to groom her well without a good straight coat. Curls make for an uneven finish...poodle hair is different from curly human hair. If you scissor straightened poodle hair evenly, it will curl evenly.
I agree with whoever said to ask for a doodle type head....it sounds like that's what you want. Typically, we do a round cute style on most doodles unless it's requested otherwise.
Someone else suggested pictures, that's the best way to ask for what you want. Try to pick a picture of a dog that looks similar to Lou and is around the same age....I've had soo many people bring me a picture of a 2 mo puppy for their 5 yo dog. There isn't a way to make a 5 yo dog look like a puppy!! We can make them cute and there are things we can do to make them more "puppyish", but once puppyhood is gone, it's gone.
Have you seen any grooms recently on some poodles or doodles that you liked? If you do, go ahead and ask who did it. That will be a good way to find the best groomer.
And maybe, just maybe, try to convince your boyfriend (or husband...sorry I can't remember!) to try a clean face. It's much easier to maintain, is feminine, and you won't have any problem telling the groomer what you want.
AND you won't have hardly any trouble with people knowing wether or not she is a poodle lol!!
I attached a photo of my Lhasa, you can kind of see what I'm talking about with the eye-corner thing. See how there is no skin, the short hair is blended in to the longer hair. Please don't pay attention to the head style...that was in my earlier years as a groomer.
It's not very flattering for him lol!!