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Old 01-23-2010, 05:04 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Hi,
I'm really starting to think my dog is depressed? Do dogs get depressed?

I'm asking over in this section because its not my poodle that is the concern but my sweet Terrier mix.

We have always had a wonderful relationship and a very close bond. But I've noticed over the last few months that we have seemed to be growing apart. She has wanted less and less to do with me. She seems more mopey. She just sits and stares at me from a distance. She just wants to sleep all the time.

She had a check up recently and she is fine physically, but I am worried about her.

I don't know if it has something to do with new baby coming (due anytime) or what, but I wouldn't think so because I haven't spent any less time with her infact I've probably spent more. (Ofcourse I can't pick her up anymore and haven't been able to since I got pregnant) but she still can sit in my lap and cuddle. And she is a real lap dog.

She seems very uninterested in me. Though she is clinging to my husband a lot more. She is also more on edge and seems to be really nervous, which isn't like her at all. Its almost like the Chihuahua is coming out in her. She almost seems less trusting of everyone but my husband.

She still gets plenty of exercise and all. Its almost like she knows the baby is coming and is just detaching herself from me. And to be honest it kind of hurts that she wants nothing to do with me. (and the last 2 months is when it got the worst)

She used to constantly be at my side, in my lap, following me around. Now she never is.

I'm just starting to get concerned, should I be?

Is there anything I can do to help mine and her relationship at this point?


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I will add that my husband has had to do all their feeding since early on in my pregnancy, due to 2 reasons. The smell of the food makes me nauseous (its a very fishy smell) and the size of the bag, I can't be lifting I haven't been allowed to lift over 10lbs since 16 weeks. When the baby comes I plan to start being the one to feed them again. He has also had to make their kongs for them, but I am the one that gives them to them.

Up until a few weeks ago, he was doing all their walks due to the fact that I wasn't supposed to (I was on limited activity). But I still took them to a relatives house to play offleash in the fenced in yard and I did sit and play with them. And I have been doing that 2-3 times a week their whole lives, that hasn't changed.

Could any of that have anything to do with it, she doesn't feel like I'm her master anymore? Does she feel like I've abandoned her? (She was already abandoned once, I would never abandon her)
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So sorry to hear that. BUT dogs are so intuative, and I honestly would not be surprised that it does have something to do with the changes you have been going through - the simplist changes they know.

Maybe some one on one bonding would work and I hate to say it, but good treats only given by you can get a better assessment (some might not agree) but I'm sure your bigger concerns are his health and how will he act once the baby comes.

What did the check up at the vet consist of?

I feel for you and hope you can figure out what has triggerd this.
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What did the check up at the vet consist of?
It was just her annual check up, but I brought up my concerns and the vet said that its most likely she doesn't see me as her master anymore, or she is just detaching herself. Being that she is still eating and drinking and exercising and acting normal around everyone else, its most likely got to do with the baby. He doesn't think its anything physical but more emotional or mental. Especially since her and I have always had what I felt as a emotional link, we tend to feed off of how the other is feeling. (But not so much anymore)

So I agree its not a health issue, but it still hurts that she wants nothing to do with me, and I worry about possibly jealousy issues when the baby comes. And this is the dog I had no concerns about in the beginning. (Infact she knew i was pregnant before I did, she was constantly guarding me when I first became pregnant, and until recently she would lay her head on my tummy) Now she just avoids (maybe she doesn't like the fact the baby kicks when she comes around)


I'll pick up her favorite treat at the store today and see how that works over the next little bit. (she likes those natural balance berry treats)


The last 2 days she has barely even looked at me, no matter how hard I try to get her attention and love on her.
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The last 2 days she has barely even looked at me, no matter how hard I try to get her attention and love on her.
Maybe that's it... try NOT to get her attention and love on her so much, but let her come to you when she's ready. I find with my dogs that the more I ignore them, the more willing they are to make the choice to love on ME!! Just a thought...
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Dogs work in the reverse of most humans. If you try to actively gain their affection they turn away from you. If you ignore them and go on about your business they will seek you out for acceptance. The ones in a pack that beg for attention are the lowest members. They are the ones that crouch down and roll over and show their belly and lick obsessively at the chins of the ones above them. The alphas ignore them for the most part because they are the bottom of the pack. You have reversed roles and she knows it. Start behaving like her and go on about your business as a confident leader and she will come around again. She is sensing your neediness and that puts her in a level above you.
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