The holidays have passed and we had a LOT of people here on and off. The kids all came (nice), the brothers and sisters, Aunts/Uncles, nieces, etcetera. The dogs did great with all the hubbub, but it left me wondering if I am a little too dog oriented.
-Someone yelled at one of my dogs to shut up when they barked at the door for a doorbell. I got mad at the person (I want the dogs to bark at the door bell). My dogs are well trained. I tell them 'quiet' and they are quiet. I showed the person that and they acted surprised that the dogs would listen to me.
-One friend/acquaintance of a daughter started teasing my Jazz, batting his rear end/shaking his head and trying to rile him up. It frightened Jazz and the guy called him a woosy dog when Jazz ran to hide from the guy (mind you, Jazz is 7 months old) and started chasing Jazz for fun to frighten him. I told my daughter that guy wasn't welcome here anymore (good thing it was a so-so friend and not a boyfriend ).
-My neice started pulling Bonnie's hair and I gently showed her how to pet nicely because her mom and dad thought nothing of an 18 month old pulling her tail (they thought it was cute). I tried to tell them Bonnie was a good dog and would not bite my niece, but another dog might.
-For dinner with 15 people I put them in their crates even though they are well behaved because someone else thought the dogs should not be 'around the dinner table'. They thought it was unsanitary or something.
-THEN- gasp- Bonnie jumped on the footstool where she likes to lie and someone called them spoiled and how come they were allowed on the furniture.
-I pick up the poop every day, but alas, someone stepped in an errant pile in the backyard and got ticked. How could I stand dog poop in the yard, they asked.
-Someone clearly thought Bonnie's holiday toenails were crazy.
Okay, so it wasn't all bad. Many people loved the dogs, but I wonder- is it only me that treats my dogs the way I do? Am I nuts or something? Yah, I know three dogs is a lot of dogs, but I like my dogs. I look forward to lying on the couch surrounded by my dogs watching TV. I don't mind them lying quietly around the dinner table (they do not beg).
I suppose the people on this group are fond of their dogs or they wouldn't be on this group. I'm not kookoo- really I am not. It seems to me that if people want to come to my house (and they are welcome) that they have to understand this is a DOG house. My house is clean. My dogs are clean. What's the deal? I like dogs, sometimes more than people...
Last edited by outwest; 12-27-2012 at 08:04 PM.
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I'm with you! If you want to come to my house, be advised it also belongs to my dogs. If you don't like them, don't come here. I surely won't be offended. I now have a poodle (yay no shedding) but my other two babies are chihuahuas and they shed like little buffalos. I vacuum twice a week. They are allowed on the furniture. If you don't like hair on your clothes, don't sit down!
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I am with you OW! As far as I am concerned, the dogs live here too and should be treated with respect by all. I don't think you are kookoo or that you overstepped any boundaries. If someone can't deal with the amount of dogs I have, well, they are welcome to stop coming over. I do my best to make sure my dogs behave, and the ones that don't stay crated or otherwise confined when company is over. My dogs are always clean, as is their bedding, crates, and yard. They do bark at company for a moment yes. As soon as they figure out who it is and that I'm ok with that person being there they stop.
And as far as I'm concerned, nobody yells at my dog but me if I so choose. And what is it with visiting kids harassing the dogs?! My own siblings know good and well to ask before petting them, especially the littler ones, and they know to play/pet gently. Almost every other kid that comes over ends up frightening, bullying, or otherwise annoying at least one of my dogs! Dusty actually nipped the neighbor kid she teased him so much. (He accidentally go outside unsupervised when she was over....tell ya what though, she stayed away from him after that!) Trev has been screamed at and then cornered by a kid that came over...He only growled a little though. All have been grabbed at, pulled on, and stepped on. I do my best to keep the dogs out of the way and put them up, but sometimes life happens. When you live with 11 other people, not everything is in your control. :-/ Others end up letting the dogs out, or taking visitors to see them. I just don't understand what is so hard about teaching a child how to be polite to a dog! It isn't hard really.
"Love is the emotion that a woman feels always for a poodle dog and sometimes for a man." ~George Jean Nathan
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That's why I try to stay around dog people, non-dog people are just not allowed to be around my dogs! My dogs are pleasant creatures, and if I don't deem you a worthy person, you don't get to see them!
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The only hard time with Gryphon from anyone that I got was my dad who doesn't particularly like parenting my step brother (he remarried and now has a six year old son who is absolutely NOT dog safe and can be very violent/cruel around animals). Gryphon is afraid of children, but he did really well and would eventually let my brother pet him, however he would not listen to me and kept insisting on trying to hug him/pick him up etc, and my dad thought that Gryphon would learn best by allowing Jacob to "tame" him.
My dad thought it was stupid when I told him that all he was doing was reinforcing my dogs fear of children, and affirming that they were not safe.
My step-moms mother was there, too, and she was being an ass hat when it came to my terrier-getting him super worked up and then petting him while he was being nuts as she informed me dogs were just supposed to be that way.
I kept it together, it's just one day, and they did for the most part like my dogs. We will recover, haha.
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No you are not kookoo!!!! Having a similar experience at my house a few years ago with DH family !!! It became clear that majority of "them" are just not dog/animal people. So they do not visit often ( there are other reasons such as geography we live in Ct and they live in the south) and if they do the dog comes first no matter what. The same with traveling to visit them... No dog no visit. An unspoken rule but it works for me. Besides my dogs have always been better company and don't complain about the things that most family who are visiting do. So our holidays are very quiet and that is a very large blessing
I had a ton of people over Christmas Eve.... I know a bunch of you don't like Caeser Milan but I use his "no talk, no touch, no eye contact" rule with guests.... I started it Bc Lola was a piddler but realized its a lot less stressful on the dogs if a bunch strangers aren't messing with them (besides the fact that then ppl can't be messing with their top knots lol) and it was almost as if the dogs naturally adopted the same rule for themselves Bc they both ended up sprawled out on my bed away from the company. There were small children and a few idiots in my house :-/ and I felt better that the pups were chillaxing on my bed .... btw... My bedroom door was wide open so they were choosing to be there.
And had I seen a child or adult teasing one of them I would def have stepped in and stopped that.... ESP a puppy or a nervous dog... I have 7 and 10 year old children and they are EXTREMELY respectful with our two spoos (or else).... and their friends too! Neighborhood kids walk into my house looking up at the ceiling (no eye contact lol) We have them all trained... They know not to mess with the poodles or their koo koo mother ;-)
As far as poop in the yard...well .....I have two 40-50lb dogs... They don't poop in the house... That's pretty much fair warning to watch where u step in the yard 😜
Oh boy....NOBODY yells at my dog. That is reserved for me and hubby.. IF need be.
It depends who comes over to visit. If its normal people Dex is allowed out to greet like normal. How else when he learn to behave around normal people? By normal I mean dog people, of coarse. Now if my brother in law and his wife are here I tread carefully and may keep Dex in my bedroom. They just dont like dogs and they seldom come over so...
I have another brother in law that lives next door. I never realized he doesnt have any use for dogs. But he loves Dex. He has said to members of his and hubbys family " I dont care for dogs but for some reason I really like that dog" He is bewildered as to why but Ill take it! Some day I will tell him "its because its a poodle. They are special"
Please God...... everyday, help me be the person my dog thinks I am.
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