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Old 12-05-2012, 01:05 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Do you ever feel like a walking petting zoo?

I appreciate that I have a cute dog.

I don't mind being stopped occasionally to answer a question about him.

But I am getting so tired of the "go see the doggy!" mentality in my neighborhood. A woman today used my dog as bait to stop getting their baby to cry.

Maybe I'm just not a good poodle ambassador, I just don't understand why people feel they're entitled to pet my dog. Don't they understand that this isn't some silly goat on a rope, that we have a special relationship and a bond? I hardly even see my dog as a lesser being, and I definitely don't see him as a spectacle suitable for being groped and mauled by children/strangers.

What do you think, am I just a poodle grinch?
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I understand how you feel! Our last miniature poodle, Rusty, was constantly the subject of excited "Puppy!" cries from children, adults, seniors, etc. I got tired of it, and often just wanted to go for a walk with my dog in peace. I was often polite and stopped for people and tried to educate kids about the polite way to approach a dog, but sometimes just said, "Sorry, we're on our way somewhere!" and kept going.

After Rusty passed away, though, I became one of those people who'd stop my bike, get off, and ask people if I could pet their poodles. All those unsuspecting people were just out with their poodle for a nice walk, and here I was, this woman jumping off her bike to ask to pet their dog. It was so good to get to feel poodle fur and maybe scritch their ears, since I missed my poodle so much, and maybe talk a little bit about our dogs. After having experienced the other side of the leash, so to speak (i.e. being the person without a poodle), I've resolved to be more patient with people who want to stop and meet my new poodle puppy. After all, I really appreciated people sharing their poodles with me when I was without one, even if it was just for a moment or two.

So, I get what you're saying, but can definitely appreciate both sides of the issue. I think there's no right way or wrong way of dealing with this kind of situation, but it is kind of nice to think that you and your poodle could really help make someone's day every now and then. :-)
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Or I'm the 'Oh look, someone to socialize my aggressive dog with' person with the poodles.
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I guess when I look back, I have never approached a stranger out and about and asked to pet their dog. I just realized this now.

I wonder where I got that from?

Even when I lost my first heart dog (and seeing dogs that looked at her really ripped at me) I never tried to open up a conversation, either. I guess maybe I am too afraid of ripping a seam somewhere if I bring her up.

Thank you for your perspective, I really appreciate it.
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I often feel that I am Sophy's lady in waiting, there to take the posies as she greets her smitten subjects! I walk too slowly for her so she is usually a bit ahead; she checks people as they approach to see whether they are looking at her and smiling, and as long as there isn't anything very exciting to distract her, graciously flattens her papillon ears, waves her tail, and politely asks them how they are. She then moves on to the next admirer, leaving me to answer the inevitable questions ...

Like Rusty, I love to greet nice poodles. Poppy doesn't like being loomed over, so I tell people that, and they usually listen and greet her the way she - and most other dogs - prefer. If the dogs want to meet people and the people want to meet them, I am more than happy for them to do so, although I will protect them from grabbing or anything else they find worrying. I have had so many conversations that started with asking the dogs' names, and continued to bittersweet recollections of dogs long gone, or much loved dogs waiting at home - for me it is actually one of the pleasures of dog walking.
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Or I'm the 'Oh look, someone to socialize my aggressive dog with' person with the poodles.
This is actually more true than my OP!
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Going to dog shows taught me to compliment people's dogs without even asking to pet them (and not touching them.) When I was showing Cairo, someone came up and practically gave him a nuggie. I kinda smiled and politely told them they can pet his hips, but please not to touch his head, want to guess if that worked? Ugh.
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Well you might be a bit of a grinch, but that's ok because it is your dog! I, on the other hand, am at the other end of the spectrum... my poodle is a slut, and I love it! He has to greet everyone!
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I think it's fun when people want to say hi to Brody! I appreciate if they ask first, but Brody is friendly and loves the attention. Conversely, my collie was not fond of strangers touching her, so I hated it when people wanted to pet her.
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A pretty, well-groomed poodle is an attention magnet. We haven't met a little kid yet who didn't want to pet Beau, especially when he's in a Miami. Must be something about those poms . . . . Anyway, I can only imagine what it's like with a parti standard like Gryphon. You must feel a bit like George Clooney, just trying to mind his own business, and being mobbed anyway. Fortunately for me, Beau loves meeting people. I just wish they wouldn't always pet his fresh groomed top knot.
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