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Song's Show? My Daughter Has Cancer...

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#1 ·
I'm sorry. I had no idea what topic to put this under. If it needs to be moved, please go ahead and put in the appropriate place.

As some of you know, we have big plans for presenting Song in her first shows this coming weekend.

Tonight I got a phone call from my 34-year-old daughter to let me know that she has been diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer that has spread to her lymph nodes. I am crushed..... I can't even think now.

She needs to have surgery soon and expects to get a phone call tomorrow to let her know the date. It is a good possibility that she will have that surgery by the upcoming weekend. She is most likely going to have a full mastectomy. The stage of cancer she is at will not be known until test can be performed after the operation.

If the operation is set for the end of the week, there will be no show, of course. If the operation is set for next week, I will still take her to show. My daughter is a very private person and doesn't like a lot of fuss about her, so there won't be anything I can do, and it will help to keep my mind occupied.

When I know what is going to happen, I will give an update.

Thank you to all of you who follow us. We very much appreciate your support.

Prayers, good karma, or whatever you can offer is much appreciated also.
 
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Oh my god. I am so sorry you and your daughter are going through this. I will be thinking of you and your girl. Good healing wishes. Do many great advancements in cancer treatments recently. I work in health care and it makes me feel positive with new results. Be strong. Hug your daughter from Sookie Phoenix and me. Also if you can show we send you rockin super poodle powers! Good luck in any case!
 
#6 ·
Breast cancer is now very treatable. Granted, the treatment is nasty, but please, both of you, stay very positive. One of my best girlfriends was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer (already spreading) and that was over 10 years ago. She has no signs of any cancer at all and feels terrific. She, too, was young when diagnosed.

I am sending many positive vibes your way!
 
#7 ·
So sorry to hear this, but as others have said, the prognosis is much better than it would have been even a few years ago. My thoughts are with you all.
 
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Keep up the positive thoughts---I'm a firm believer in the power of positive thinking, and the healing benefits of such.

I'll send positive energy her way, and will keep you in my thoughts. I can understand her need for privacy for we all confront challenges in our own way. I hope she has a poodle (dog) to comfort her in this trying time.

Stray strong and we're all here if you need us (humans and poodles). :grouphug:
 
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I am so sorry to hear about your daughter and will certainly be praying for her. I have 2 friends who have had aggressive cancer (breast cancer and ovarian), and both are alive and well 10 years later. The treatment is certainly nasty, but it is nice to know that it is effective in so many cases.
 
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You and your brave daughter have no idea how many hearts sank along with yours at this news, or how many well-wishers are standing by your side right now. I am guessing your daughter is the kind of woman who goes into any challenge intending to win. Often that mindset is a good predicator of a positive outcome. I wish her strength, comfort and a return to good health; the same for you! When any harm befalls our children, our spirits are slain in the process. Please, as best you can, hold onto faith and seek and accept comfort. You and your daughter are NOT alone in this! Many hearts and hopes for total healing are with you.
 
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You and your brave daughter have no idea how many hearts sank along with yours at this news, or how many well-wishers are standing by your side right now. I am guessing your daughter is the kind of woman who goes into any challenge intending to win. Often that mindset is a good predicator of a positive outcome. I wish her strength, comfort and a return to good health; the same for you! When any harm befalls our children, our spirits are slain in the process. Please, as best you can, hold onto faith and seek and accept comfort. You and your daughter are NOT alone in this! Many heart and hopes for total healing are with you.

First and foremost, I want to thank everyone for the outpouring of care and warmth so badly needed at this moment while my mind tries to process this.

I am so proud of my daughter. She is very strong and more positive than anyone else in the family. She seems to instinctively know what she needs to do. She has made us all promise not to bring any negativity of any type when we are around her and even asked us to save our tears for when we are not with her. She wants this to be a positive experience no matter what the outcome and she also wants it to be a learning experience for everyone she knows in whatever way they need it.

I am a Christian. I do believe that good things come out of everything no mater what their outcome. I am so very lucky to have people like all of you here for support and many in my life at home as well. I know I'm going to need them. I would be lying if I said that I am not afraid. As a mom, I want to run to her, scoop her up in my arms and make her all better. Sadly this is not a bandaid fix.

I have had several people telling me wonderful survival stories that are very encouraging. I will be sure to share these with Nikki. My pet name for her has always been Pooh. She is still called Pooh by those closest to her including her nieces. She was my quiet, shy and very kind child of my six children. As a little one, she used to hide behind my legs and peek out between them at people. She speaks with a soft voice and is just a very endearing young woman.

I am grateful that she is so strong and wise. I know this is going to serve her well while she makes this journey. She wants to think nothing but positive thoughts, and that is what we are going to give her. I will save my tears for home and share my fears and my sorrows with my friends. Hopefully, in time, I will be able to share her victory as well. If there is a victory to be had, she is on the right path to it.

God bless all of you for your kindness during this difficult time for us. I know we don't really know each other, but I always consider my friends on the internet as my internet family.
 
#22 ·
I'm very sorry to hear this news. Of course I will be sending positive thoughts and prayers out to your daughter and all of your family. Having gone through different types of cancer with several family members, the one common theme through all of them was to maintain absolute positivity and normality in your routines. Please know that we are supporting you 110% and that you can lean on us whenever you need to.
 
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#23 ·
I thought it would be nice to post some photos of Pooh so that you can visualize her in your thoughts. She was sweet enough to travel to my photography school after work in the evenings and pose for me as a model.





This was an assignment for photographing for a business portrait. She actually used this photo at the bank where she works.



 
#25 ·
Your daughter is as beautiful on the outside as she is in spirit. I see strength, goodness and optimism in her. I so appreciate having the chance to "see" her! I will carry her in my heart and in my thoughts from here on. You deserve to be proud of her, and of yourself, for raising her to be the courageous woman she is. I deeply admire and support her desire to focus her energy on getting through her treatments and getting well. It can be very depleting to be among sobbing and despairing others, the inclination to comfort them can really rob your strength. Your are entitled to your tears and sadness, but I can sense Nikki's courage is contagious and I know you will find a way to be her strongest, best champion. We're all here to stand with you in that Herculean effort.
 
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There's nothing I can say that can take away the fear and the pain of knowing Pooh is having to go through this. What I CAN do is keep her (and you, and the family) in my prayers to Him whose eye is on the sparrow. She is a beautiful young woman and she has support and prayers from all over this big world! The road will be long. It will be heartbreaking and painful - but she won't be completely alone... She has YOU!! God bless you all!!

Barb
 
#27 ·
I feel your pain on a very personal level for reasons I can't go into on a public forum. During my brief time here, I've come to respect you very much. Your daughter is tremendously beautiful and I see a very strong spirit beneath that beauty. Thank God she has you, and all the positive energy you and your love for your poodle family bring her way. Yes, I believe animals are life affirming and we who surround ourselves with them gain so much.

You will all be in my prayers.
 
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