I wanted to post my thanks here because I know, from previous experience as a longtime member of a different forum, that people are quick to post negative feedback and not so much with the positive. In a way, new forum members are kinda plopping down in your home to have a chat. If it was a good chat, helpful and such, we should let you know and thank you for having us over. It's good manners.
I came here hoping that I could find some resolution to a problem we were having with our puppy Oberon. He had a personality change at 7.5 months of age and began snarling and trying to bite our children. At first we thought maybe we could find a trainer and get some professional help for him and us. We thought it might be he had dominance issues or was protecting food or toys or me. We were kind of hoping for a miracle cure to keep us from having to rehome our pet as our vet reccomended.
Alas, none of the people on Poodle Forum have a functioning magic wand or the ability to perform miracles. However, I know you all wished you could have. I greatly appreciated that people who did not know me were willing to give me the benefit of the doubt, to not assume I had been tying our dog up in the back yard or allowing the kids to beat our pup with a rubber hose or some such thing. I appreciated that many of you shared your stories of times when a dog just didn't fit in your family or had to be put down.
I can't say I wanted to hear any of that. I kinda was hoping maybe there was something we had done wrong. Maybe we should never have let him sleep in our bed or sit in our laps. If we made him always be physically lower than all of us, made him let us touch his food, kept working with him, he would be fine. However, in the end, I really think we were victims of a backyard breeder who was just looking for a buck. We were suckered into an unwise choice of dog. More sadly, our pup Oberon may have to be put to sleep or at the very least has been removed from a family he really did love.
I appreciate that nobody in the forum said, "Well, you are the idiot who bought from a backyard breeder, what do you expect?" I respect the fact that while some of you may well have THOUGHT that, you kept your fingers quiet and your responses polite and helpful.
Not only did you share stories, understand, and sympathize with our dilemma, Chagall's mom was very kind and gave us multiple resources we could contact. We were able to hand our puppy over to wiser hands who will know what is best to do for him and we are comfortable with whatever decision they make.
No, you all don't have magic wands, but you were kind and helpful at a time when we were in shock and did not know where to turn. Thank you for all of you words, thoughts and assistance. You made a hard time a little bit easier.
Mourning the loss of Oberon and cautiously considering bringing another dog into our family.
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I am so sorry there was no miracle cure for Oberon. Sometimes dogs, just like people, are just wrong. Your story reminded me of a middle school friend, lovely family. We both adopted a mix breed pup from the same litter. Half of the litter were lovely dogs. Half were mini Cujos. They did everything they could to work through his many issues but to no avail. I am so glad you won't let this put you off dogs especially poodles. Best of luck in finding a lovely, sweet tempered dog for your family. Thank you for letting us know what happened.
I am sorry to see that you were not able to find a solution that allowed you to keep your pup, but am relieved to hear that you were able to send him to a home where hopefully they will find effective ways to deal with his issues and improve his behavior. If that doesn't happen then you still have to remember you did the best you could under very difficult circumstances.
I hope that when you have had a chance to mourn the loss of Oberon (and it is a mournful loss) that you will find a great breeder who will help to team you up with the right dog for your family. I am 50+, but can still remember, like yesterday, the first glimpse of my childhood dog, a beagle puppy who was my fifth birthday present. She got me all the way to college and even though she was far from perfect, my memories of her are perfect because they are so integral to the life I enjoyed with my parents, brother and dog--going camping and so many other fun times.
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