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I do not know if I am old fashioned, but after my own experience, I would say wait. I was married for twenty two years, and had known my husband over a year prior to that, and he decided to cheat on me with our daughter's girlfriend, so needless to say, our marriage ended PRONTO! I was left with the houuse, the dogs, all the bills and lost my job when my hubby got himself fired. (We both sold international advertising for trade magazines for the same fellow, who was so ticked with my ex that I suffered too).

Six months after our marriage broke down I met Bruce and really felt like my destiny had all led me to this place to meet him. He is my soul mate, our interests are similar, we both adore the dogs, he is amazing with my kids and grandkids and I love him with all my heart. But, I am not the type of person to live with someone, and though that is not who I am, both of our situations made this the practical thing to do and we did it. And while I do not regret one minute of being with him, I wish we had begun co-habitating AFTER we got married, because we have both gotten so comfortable in our situation that we just do not think about it. Well...I do...but I do not talk to him about it. I figure after ten years of living together as husband and wife, why aren't we? I would love to share his last name, but think because we have done this for so long the chance we will ever get married is pretty slim because when he mentions it I am not ready and when I am he is not. To me, it has complicated things a lot. So, think long and hard about your decision, because even if you are the type of woman who thinks marriage doesn't matter, there will be times it will bug you. And it is really hard for most guys to understand the change of heart. Their attitude seems to be if it ain't broken don't fix it. Good luck in whatever you decide!!